Ohhh... Sorry to hear that, though they'd probably still be -- not here, even if you hadn't been hiding.

[Still. Sucks that someone's hiding and can't spend time with them before they leave.]

Honestly? I was kept in the dark about too much stuff happening to my friends, when I was younger. But things happened and things changed. Now I rather talk things through right away instead of avoiding anyone or anything.

[Short version? Yeah, it's not good for you or anyone.]